Today we’d like to introduce you to Jayme Shiarla
Hi Jayme, thanks for joining us today. We’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.
Born and raised in Ohio, I developed quite a diverse resume personally and professionally at a very early age. None of us make it through life without adversity, and unfortunately but fortunately, I experienced all different forms. From experiencing a lot of death, being raised in a broken home, abusive relationships, rape, drugs, alcohol, and attempts at taking my own life, to working many different jobs such as hair, massage therapy, coaching cheer and gymnastics, working with special needs individuals, network marketing, fitness instructor, waitressing on the side, selling insurance, working corporate for a Fortune 100 company, I learned a lot. I struggled with self-worth, desperate to feel loved, and accepted, and thought that making more money or being successful would make me happy. I used work, personal development, and the gym as my drugs of choice.
I was sprinting in place getting nowhere fast. I was exhausted all of the time and would develop severe anxiety and depression when I had downtime. It made me feel lazy and that I hadn’t done enough to earn rest or time off. I was running on fumes. I was so incredibly lonely. I felt like I had no idea who I was, or why I was here and felt like I wasn’t serving any value.
After experiencing a massive burnout which led to me being put on bedrest for an entire week, I knew that something I had to change. I had to change. I decided to start taking that work ethic and applying it inward. In this journey, I became super intrigued by how the brain works and because of my love for fitness, started realizing that the brain is just like a muscle. If you want to strengthen or improve a muscle, you have to train it. By implementing consistent tension, repetition, and practice, you can transform a muscle to make it stronger, better, and more useful. I started applying this concept to my brain and my whole life changed.
Because “coach” always seemed to be a part of my identity throughout my whole life, I decided to become a certified life coach and NLP practitioner. Jayme Shiarla Coaching was born, and now I have dedicated my life to helping men and women all around the world create a life of sustainable purpose, connection, and fulfillment.
Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?
If you’re experiencing a smooth road, I think you’re missing out on so much that life has to offer. Struggle is part of the journey, so it’s definitely had its bumps along the way. I would say that the biggest struggle for me was learning to give myself grace as a coach.
It is always top priority for me to be a product of my own product. That being said, it’s crucial that I continue to work on myself and keep strengthening my mindset. When that is also what I do for others and in the initial phases of building my business, it was a struggle to act like all was okay because my livelihood depended on it. It’s not like I was able to “shut off” and just pick it back up later. I had to master working through my own stuff and learn to be vulnerable and authentic in who I was while building a reputation as someone who was able to be an expert in helping others do the same.
Although a struggle, it taught me a lot and definitely gave me a reason to push for more. Not just for myself, but for my clients.
Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your work?
I specialize in one-on-one coaching for the man or woman who is doing well professionally but struggling emotionally and relationally. These individuals typically come to me, experiencing burnout, struggling with work and home life balance, feeling stuck, uncertain in who they are, or chasing after the “when” moments of life. Whether they feel they will be happy “when” something occurs in their life, they will get a chance to slow down “when” a goal is reached, or just waiting for the moment “when” it feels like they’ve finally done enough to be proud of what they’ve done, I help them learn how to get clear on their goals and experience their “when”, NOW.
This is done through customized programming for my clients that helps them uncover the habits, thoughts, and beliefs that keep them from the joy they could be experiencing now. Together, we dig into the trenches to train and transform habits and thought processes, helping them experience purpose, confidence, and connection where they are currently while helping them still aim for more in the future.
There have been so many fulfilling moments in my coaching career so far, but I think my most proud would be a client of mine who had extremely little faith that anything was going to change or work for her. She had put all of her identity into her work and trying to love everyone around her. She didn’t believe she was smart, worthy of love, or that anything she did mattered. She had an extremely great job, but only seemed to pick out the negative things in her life and it spiraled so much, that not even her job was able to keep her going. If you were to bump into her now, and we aren’t even halfway through her program, you wouldn’t even recognize her. Her energy is through the roof, she is pouring so much positivity and confidence into her family, and even herself. She is shining so bright and so excited for her future. This may sound like a super simple example because this transformation is normal in my coaching, but to watch someone latch onto that small seed of hope and willingness to trust me in their journey has been incredibly memorable.
One of the biggest things that sets me apart from others is my integrity. My goal is not to streamline a business where my clients don’t have full access to me. I will not expand my coaching to a group setting because I believe the real, deep work and magic happen on a one-to-one basis. I give 150% to each one of my clients and will not encourage or coach them to do anything I wouldn’t be willing to do.
We all have a different way of looking at and defining success. How do you define success?
The basic definition of success: “The accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”
So many tie their sense of success to how much money they make, how amazing life looks on their highlight reels on social media, power, or fame.
That being said, I believe that success is achieving a life you are proud of. A life that brings you joy, connection, purpose, growth, and a chance to love and serve. So many chase the “highs” that the world tells you will make you happy, only for that high to wear off, and now you’re chasing your next “fix.” What every human really desires is love, to be loved, connection, to feel seen, understood, and to be the reason why others get to experience that as well.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://coachjayme.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaymethecoach
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jshiarlacoaching
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaymethecoach
- Other: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/coachjayme
Image Credits
Javie Martinez – Kaizen Media
