Drako Tyshawn shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Good morning Drako, we’re so happy to have you here with us and we’d love to explore your story and how you think about life and legacy and so much more. So let’s start with a question we often ask: What is a normal day like for you right now?
A normal day starts with a cup of coffee and sometimes I play music, some days I stretch, and other days I enjoy the silence. When I am scheduled to work, I normally finish that individual in about three hours and then I cater to my son. Catering to my son looks like feeding him and taking him outside for sunlight. While he rides his bike, I am normally scanning the environment for traveling cars or I am self-reflecting over my state of being. Once outdoor activities are concluded, we hydrate and watch some television until its time for a store run that includes preparing for supper. Lastly, when supper is complete, if we don’t complete a hour of doordash, then we wine down with a bubble bath. And that’s pretty much the flow of my day with my son.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hello, my name is Ladreka Williams but I prefer to be acknowledged as Drako Tyshawn. I am a mother to a handsome young boy, as well as being the proud creator of M.I.L.F Solutions LLC. M.I.L.F Solutions LLC is rooted in providing services and good I personally find interest in, as the acronym means (Moments I Live For). I created my LLC in 2024 when I decided I needed to actively shift my foundation from “side hustle” to a “career”. Although my intention was to create an online storefront with items I loved, we ended up following through with the hair business journey, I started in 2023. I currently provide natural haircare services like braids and lock retwist that we call protective styles, because it allows individuals to minimize daily task through a hairstyle. I believe my brand is unique because it carries purpose that society can’t comprehend. I have been working to cross haircare into mental health services through a program called Push Prep. The vision Push Prep desires to manifest aligns with the idea of emotional support to pregnant women, almost like a doula but with more flexibility. The program is designed to keep moms with a fresh hairstyle, clean living areas, and consistent transportation to appointments — with little to no cost. I am also working toward adding a small puzzle collection to my store, not only to sell but to encourage individuals to pick up more hobbies that stimulate the mind effectively. Which, that was the overall purpose of my brand — using things I find interest in and normalizing them to others similar to me. But, creating wealth was always my main goal and I underestimated the character development that was required to obtain my desires. However, I am proud of myself and what has been established in the last three years. And yes, I am always accepting new clients.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What relationship most shaped how you see yourself?
I have two different connections that have greatly impacted how I view and receive myself. The connection with my son Dior has really impacted how I viewed myself. I always say its because our birthday is the exact same, but I genuinely believe it has more to do with our gender differences. With him being masculine and confident from birth, it taught me so much about the parts of innocence I had once lost. Because I work from home and he stays with me, I was blessed with time to really observe and learn him. On our hardest days, his presence humbles me because it requires my presence and awareness of each moment. Meaning, I often get lost in being reactive before I am effectively responsive, and that helps me to treat him as the kid he is instead of holding him to a standard intended for someone older than him. With my son, I am grateful to experience the true meaning of unconditional love for him and myself, because I didn’t grow up with emotionally or physically available parents. But, that’s another story.
The other connection that has affected my perception of self was with a young man. Years ago, I participated in a music video and he was there too. We didn’t speak much because I felt too old to be finding interest, but then he popped up in my life again. Only this time, he was coming in as a client to my freshly ran business. I remember being so nervous because I remembered him and I was hoping he remembered me, and he did. I tried to keep it as platonic as possible because I valued my business but I felt an energy of “put it out there and see what happens” and I got a response better than expected. Why was this so impactful for me? I always say it was about his character or his ability to be honest with me, but truthfully I’ve never felt spiritually connected to anyone like this. This realization opened me up to accepting myself at a depth I felt life had disconnected me from. The moment that shifted me was when he looked me in my eye and stated “I think your worth the wait” after I was feeling bad that my mother responsibility was trumping a moment. That reassurance grounded me and begin my next journey toward reclaiming my self-esteem by facing weaknesses that needed sharpening.
Both of these connections came after a connection I lost because I realized honesty did or could not live there. All three connections have bought me closer to living in alignment with my authenticity, and I’ll forever be grateful for them.
If you could say one kind thing to your younger self, what would it be?
If I could talk to my younger self, I’d definitely say “WE DID IT”. My voice may shake because things happened out of order and not as I envisioned, but we’re living through things I used to journal about. For example, I would always write how I wanted to graduate college, have a job that didn’t restrict me, and I wanted to be married with a family including a husband and about four kids. My younger self was in an environment she did not want to replicate, but her older self lost that to survival along the way. So, today I reassure her, time is of the essence and she should cease each moment. I’d also reassure her it was safe to be herself and to take up space regardless how it felt when people rejected her. I’d play a video so she could see how beautiful she is or how her smile can light up a room. I would hope she sees the value in how her spirit radiates in the world and know that she’s strong enough to overcome every challenge she faces.
Sure, so let’s go deeper into your values and how you think. What important truth do very few people agree with you on?
Recently the social media world split over a conversation pertaining to how one interprets or receives the religious belief of Jesus Christ and its connection to God. The controversy lived in people disagreeing with a rapper who stated “We have been taught to praise our brother more than we worship our father” and honestly I agreed. On my spiritual journey, I came to accept this same truth and I fight daily to stay rooted in that reality. If I had the space to do an interview I’d say the same thing, but I’d be sure to explain that its still a process to that logic. I saw everyone repeating scripture connected to “everyone must come through the Son to connect to me” but you could feel an overwhelming sense of their lack of depth with The Word. So what’s my truth?
I believe there is a power outside the self who controls bigger collective energy, and I believe that same power exists within. I also believe you have to believe the story in order to understand that’s just the ground work of building your foundation. In my reality, I was being taught to “pick up my own cross” and for me that meant putting myself in the position of Jesus Christ, and can you believe I faced the same rejection? Yes, so from that moment I knew people in higher spiritual ranks than me couldn’t be experiencing the same higher power as me and so I slowly disconnected. In that disconnect, I begin to learn about esoteric and occult knowledge and I am on a high without realizing — I am tapped into some supernatural being coming from within. And from there its been a rollercoaster because I didn’t realize I had tapped into matters society is intentionally misguided about, and I became a threat to a system benefiting off people’s lack of knowledge. So now, I minimize how much I discuss and when because people aren’t having that type relationship within themselves to even hold the space for what I am teaching them, or trying to. So yes, spirituality is a very important truth I hold dear because this conditioning starts from childhood and it affects the entire family, not just the parents or children.
Thank you so much for all of your openness so far. Maybe we can close with a future oriented question. What pain do you resist facing directly?
Love has been my greatest pain, but its not stopping me from believing it’s attainable. My whole life I knew love to be this desolate place where potential overcrowded the reality of lack. I experienced the first heartbreak when I learned my mom had abandoned the family, because it felt like I lost my dad too. I just remember how she’d pop up and disappear, and sometimes I would hear her voice and the next I wouldn’t even have a phone number to call.
This caused me to grow up accepting rejection and abandonment as forms of love because that was the only example I had, for a long time. Would you believe me if I told you, that’s still who they are to me and I am almost 30 years old?
So, recently I believe to have been delivered from the “sacrificial love” thinking paradigm, and I have been adjusting to how it feels to choose myself. It’s like with me no longer running from the fact I felt unlovable, I have witnessed the weight of addiction fall off of me. I have also witnessed a greater sense of control show up in my emotional life, and that’s created a domino affect in my close relationships.
So yes, the greatest pain I had to overcome was feeling unloved by my parents. And it wasn’t until I became a parent, with the same karmic pattern at play, that I sympathized with my parents — because empathy would mean it’s acceptable.
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