We recently had the chance to connect with Tiffany Ashenfelter LPC-S and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Tiffany, thank you so much for joining us today. We’re thrilled to learn more about your journey, values and what you are currently working on. Let’s start with an ice breaker: What is a normal day like for you right now?
A normal day for me right now starts with getting up and getting ready for work, seeing clients, chatting with my colleagues about work, our weekends or whatever, heading to pilates class afterward, then home, dinner, playing with my dog, hanging with my husband and usually reading a good book. I’m a avid reader so lots of reading everyday.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hi, I’m Tiffany Ashenfelter, LPC-S. I’m a trauma-informed therapist based in Dallas Texas. I’ve spent nearly 20 years walking alongside individuals as they navigate life’s harder moments, whether that’s dealing with depression or anxiety, relationship struggles, spiritual wounds, or simply the feeling of being stuck and unsure where to go next.
My work is grounded in evidence-based approaches like somatic therapy and attachment science. I’ve also received training in both Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and am a Certified Equine Specialist, where I incorporate work with horses in the therapeutic process. I specialize in helping people reconnect with themselves: body, mind, and spirit. I also hold space for those processing spiritual abuse or exploring how their faith fits into their healing journey.
What makes my work unique is how deeply personal and integrative it is. I don’t just focus on symptoms, I focus on your story, your nervous system, and your relationships, all at once. Whether I’m working in the therapy room, speaking at an event, or connecting with folks in my own life, my goal is always the same: to create spaces where people feel seen, safe, and supported in becoming who they were meant to be.
Right now, I’m continuing to grow both my private practice and my work as a speaker and trainer, offering workshops and talks on boundaries, the nervous system, the Enneagram, and faith-informed healing. I’m passionate about helping people live with more clarity, intention, and connection and I feel honored every day to do this work.
Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. What breaks the bonds between people—and what restores them?
Bonds break when emotional safety is lost, when our needs go unmet, when we feel unseen, or when connection becomes inconsistent or unsafe. In response, we learn to protect ourselves by shutting down, disconnecting, or over-functioning. These protective strategies are deeply human. They’re our nervous system’s best attempt at survival when connection no longer feels safe.
What restores the bond is consistent, safe connection. Healing happens when someone is consistently present with us, not to fix or rescue, but to stay, especially when we’re messy, afraid, or unsure. From an attachment lens, healing begins when we’re met with attunement and presence, especially in our most vulnerable moments.
When you were sad or scared as a child, what helped?
Growing up in the country as an only child, I had a lot of alone time. I have always sought solace in both books and in nature.
Books gave me a window into the hearts and minds of others, a chance to escape into another’s story to see and learn from their adventures. I also always had a lot of animals around me growing up, dogs, chickens, horses and being outside with them was another way in which I sought connection and comfort. I would often spend afternoons riding my childhood horse, Sally, out in the woods with my dog trailing us. Those memories hold so much tranquility and peace for me.
Sure, so let’s go deeper into your values and how you think. What would your closest friends say really matters to you?
My closest friends would probably say authenticity is what matters most to me. We live in a time and culture where it can be so hard to know what’s real, especially with the rise of AI. My cute animal video algorithm is getting ruined with all the AI animal videos. I have always valued authenticity in myself and in others. I’m not interested in someone’s highly curated version, I want to know what’s real. Our true authentic selves are beautiful and valuable.
Okay, so let’s keep going with one more question that means a lot to us: What false labels are you still carrying?
I have long struggled with the message that I am both too much and not enough. It’s not an uncommon struggle, especially for women and I’ve sat with many attempting to undo that belief. I’ve had to work to take my own words to heart. I am exactly who I was meant to be, someone who can be both loud and passionate as well as quiet and thoughtful. I can be serious and playful, whimsical and structured.
